Trusting someone is always a risk. But at some point in your relationship, you should know if you can trust your partner based on observing how he/she has handled various situations and how he/she treats other people, especially how he/she treats YOU.
What defines cheating in a relationship?
The time to get answers to this question is before both parties become exclusive so that there’s an understanding and agreement prior to becoming a couple. Don’t assume your partner will have the same definitions as you when it comes to what describes infidelity. It should also be determined what the outcome will be if either of you break the agreement of fidelity. Decide if you will leave the relationship, and make that a declaration so the consequences are known beforehand. If cheating should occur, keep your word and follow through with the consequence. Otherwise you lose all credibility and self-respect; and your partner will think he or she can get away with it again.
Is this cheating to you? Is it cheating to your partner?
⇒Having lunch alone with the opposite sex who is a co-worker, or friend?
⇒Having “friends” of the opposite sex?
⇒Hanging out alone with a friend of the opposite sex?
⇒Flirting with the opposite sex in your presence or not?
⇒Kissing the opposite sex on the cheek or lips?
⇒Giving a ride to a co-worker or friend of the opposite sex?
⇒Stopping after work for cocktails alone with the opposite sex who is a co-worker or friend?
⇒Touching the hand, arm, shoulder, waist, or leg or other physical contact of the opposite sex?
⇒Hugging the opposite sex?
⇒Sharing your emotional/sexual/private moments with a coworker/friend of the opposite sex?
⇒Getting caught in a lie when out alone for drinks, etc. with the opposite sex?
⇒Talking on the phone with old boyfriends/girlfriends?
⇒Exchanging emails with friends of the opposite sex?
⇒The use of pornography in your relationships via magazines, photos, videos, porn websites?
⇒The use of chat rooms with the opposite sex?
⇒Being more attentive to other women/men in your presence leaving you to feel ignored, embarrassed?
⇒Texting friends/co-workers of the opposite sex that are not work related?
⇒Being unwilling to show your partner any texts, emails exchanges with members of the opposite sex?
⇒Purchasing gifts for another woman/man, or trying to hide it?
⇒Going to strip clubs, getting lap dances, or other “services?”
Your thoughts and comments are especially invited on this subject. What is cheating to you?
Thanks for your time! Stay at it! ~Dr. Sandy