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People Have A Right To Be Wrong



We are not satisfied to be right, unless we can prove others to be quite wrong. —William Hazlitt

Some years ago I discovered an important and liberating truth: people have the belief15right to be wrong. Including me. People didn’t need me pointing out where I thought they were misinformed or misguided about global warming or why their opinion about renaissance art was misconstrued or why GMO‘s should be banned from the planet or why Jon Snow should never be killed off.

Instead of trying to force unto others the beliefs I was passionate about, I found it incredibly freeing to grant others the right to their opinion! Imagine that! I no longer became frustrated with people who held views that opposed mine. The urge weakened to butt in and debate their opinion.

niceJudging the choices of others is not the best use of our time. Judging other people isn’t the best use of our character either. When we look down on people who have different opinions and beliefs, it appears we’re superior and we can get snotty and snobbish. UGH!

We all have preferences and opinions that we want respected and accepted but we can be brutal towards others whose preferences and opinions differ from ours. Acceptance of someone’s differing opinion doesn’t mean submission. It means you accept and respect the right of the person to hold his or her own views.

Today, join me in respecting the choices of other people—even if you think their preferences and views are inaccurate. And, better yet, ask why they hold the opinion they do and listen, not debate, listen. You might learn something unexpected.

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Ever complain about your judgment?


François de La Rochefoucauld, was a noted French author of maxims and memoirs. He possessed a clear-eyed, worldly view of human conduct. In the 16th century, he wrote “Everybody complains about their memory, and nobody complains about their judgment.”

Is this true, or what?

panic4Imagine instead of saying, “Gee, I can’t remember anything correctly these days; my memory is horrible,” you said, “Gee, I can’t decide anything correctly these days; my judgment is horrible.” Unlike better golf grips, better gas prices, or better political races, better decision-making is hardly the topic of choice at a dinner party. If it were, perhaps there would be less regrets and less hurt lives.

As we talk or gather with family or friends each night, take a moment to ask them to reflect on their decisions made throughout the day. Which showed the use of good judgment and had good conclusions? Which displayed poor results because of poor judgment?

J. K. Rowling said, “It is our choices… that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” So listen up: We need to look at our decision-making process with an honest magnifying glass. Do we admit we’re in need of some wisdom in decision-making? Do we rush into making choices? Are we afraid of making decisions? Do we make a list of pro’s and con’s? Do we consult with someone we respect prior to making a choice? These all determine whether our judgment is sound and wise; or foolish and impulsive. Not saying no when we needed to and not saying yes when we could have are areas where soul-searching is necessary. This will lead to the use of good judgment! -Dr. Sandy

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