People who demand respect from others are often the very individuals who lack that feature internally. With no self-respect, they look to others to treat them with regard. But in The Art of Worldly Wisdom, 16th century author and philosopher Baltasar Gracian said: Respect yourself if you would have others respect you. The trait of self-respect has long been a inner quality of accomplishment.
Individuals who have self-respect do not need to request or demand it from others. Self-respect is a trait that is evident in your attitude, morals, and actions; and it is the integrity in your attitude, morals, and actions that provides you with the respect of others.
Treating yourself with dignity, honor, and esteem is not due to a sense of pride, it is due to self-respect. Pride is vanity, narcissism, egoism, and status centered. Self-respect is accepting yourself—your strengths and weaknesses, talents and limitations, successes and mistakes. Pride denies or hides weaknesses, limitations, and mistakes. Self-respect announces them.
It can consume all self-respect to withhold a reply to an angry or rude people. Impulses of wanting to set the jerk straight or ask who they think they are talking to are very strong. However, replying in anger to an angry person is really the worse reply possible. Acting rude to a rude person also is not a great idea. Standing still—remaining quiet with self-respect—is the best strategy and keeps you from becoming a jerk, too.
The harmful things anger triggers you to do and the good things it keeps you from doing can be subtle and insensible, like putting up an emotional wall, or using the silent treatment. Anger can set off a chain reaction of outcomes that will ruin your health and your relationships.
It is a fact that self-respect can not occur without being able to control your anger, and handle someone’s anger toward you.
Think about it.
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