You are the primary force determining your life today. Other people or situations are not driving your life. Your attitude of mind is. Your belief in yourself is. Your regard for yourself is. Recognizing that is the beginning of awareness of any thought patterns that set you up to be emotionally used. If you have an unhealthy relationship with someone it’s because you have an unhealthy relationship with yourself. Once you experience a good relationship with yourself, you will experience healthier relationships with other people. Accepting and believing that you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect is a necessary step towards protecting yourself from people who can hurt you. That dignity and respect needs to begin with yourself–you need to treat yourself with dignity and respect.