François de La Rochefoucauld, was a noted French author of maxims and memoirs. He possessed a clear-eyed, worldly view of human conduct. In the 16th century, he wrote “Everybody complains about their memory, and nobody complains about their judgment.”
Is this true, or what?
Imagine instead of saying, “Gee, I can’t remember anything correctly these days; my memory is horrible,” you said, “Gee, I can’t decide anything correctly these days; my judgment is horrible.” Unlike better golf grips, better gas prices, or better political races, better decision-making is hardly the topic of choice at a dinner party. If it were, perhaps there would be less regrets and less hurt lives.
As we talk or gather with family or friends each night, take a moment to ask them to reflect on their decisions made throughout the day. Which showed the use of good judgment and had good conclusions? Which displayed poor results because of poor judgment?
J. K. Rowling said, “It is our choices… that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” So listen up: We need to look at our decision-making process with an honest magnifying glass. Do we admit we’re in need of some wisdom in decision-making? Do we rush into making choices? Are we afraid of making decisions? Do we make a list of pro’s and con’s? Do we consult with someone we respect prior to making a choice? These all determine whether our judgment is sound and wise; or foolish and impulsive. Not saying no when we needed to and not saying yes when we could have are areas where soul-searching is necessary. This will lead to the use of good judgment! -Dr. Sandy
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