Category Archives: Work Ethic

Why Don’t We Complain

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Have we become more stressed or more Zen-like?

Sure, we all tend to complain about ourselves–our day, our health, our work. That’s a real catharsis when we’re able to destress and release our frustrations. Life’s not fair, and that often is expressed with a justified complaint.

When it comes to inconveniences or less than ideal service, however, mostIMG_3285 people are preferring to go with the flow and let it go. Why don’t we complain? Have we become more compassionate towards those workers in front of us, seeing them as co-habitants of stressful living? Cutting them slack is like an invisible nod of I feel the strain of your job. 

An aversion to confrontation can also be a reason why we don’t complain. People would rather adjust to a defect or go without their request rather than object and risk an altercation. Why don’t we complain? It may be related to how stressed we are and a matter of picking our battles.

In 1961, William F. Buckley, Jr. wrote an essay that describes his amusing struggle to assert himself, called “Why Don’t We Complain?” It originally appeared in Esquire in 1960. He wrote:

Every New Year’s Eve I resolve to do something about the Milquetoast in me and vow to speak up, calmly, for my rights and for the betterment of our society, on every appropriate occasion… When our voices are finally mute, when we have finally suppressed the natural instinct to complain, whether vexation is trivial or grave, we shall have become automatons, incapable of feeling. (Read his entire essay here.)

One of Buckley’s reasons, 55 years ago, for why Americans didn’t complain was due to a reluctance to assert ourselves because of an increased sense of helplessness in an age of technology and centralized political power.

10d69f3e-9b69-4700-9155-2f934eb05151-mediumI can see how that conclusion may no longer be why we don’t complain. There may be people who don’t verbalize what they really think because they don’t want to make a fuss and be thought as difficult. The problem with that plan is that the people who really need to be heard, won’t be. If they don’t share what they think, how will they be heard?

As American’s, we must assert ourselves for the cause of equality and the demonstration of human kindness. Any abatement from this basic human right deserves complaint. Otherwise, we fail as a society.

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Out of Focus

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OUT OF FOCUS – Dr. Sandy Nelson

Today, in the National Hockey League Western Conference finals, the Chicago hockey1Blackhawks will play game four with the Anaheim Ducks. The victor of this series will play for the Stanley Cup—the championship trophy awarded annually to the National Hockey League(NHL) playoff winner.

I’m a Blackhawk fan. I watch the games. I get the gist of hockey. I don’t know all the rules, but I think any idiot, myself included, knows that this game, among other things, takes focus and attention.

So I stopped to think about what I focus on. Suddenly my mind was bombarded with a cazillion things that occupy my day and I found it difficult to sort it all out to even have a focus.

IMG_1577Should I focus on my attitude? Or topics for my blog? What about my family? How about those bills? How much housework should I get done today? Maybe I should focus on more research and reading. Then the phone is ringing, the doorbell goes off, the dog is barking. Wait, where are those tips about staying focused; they’re here somewhere on my desk where the cat is sleeping.

To accomplish anything takes focus. And to focus, we need to remove distractions that could take us way off track. We need to put down our phones, turn off the music or TV, defer conversations until later. Then we’re ready to sit down with concentration for the task at hand.

I think it’s wise to start the every day with intentions.IMG_1034

1. Set your intentions for your attitude. Envision your outlook for the day–one of gratitude, kindness, and giving.

2. Decide what’s tasks need to be accomplished. Set the priorities of what projects need your focused attention at work and at home.

4. Then focus on those priorities, without distraction, and you’ll be finished in no time.

Then relax and enjoy what remains of the day. Turn on that TV just in time for a hockey game! I bet you can focus on that!

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5 Ways To Get Fired – Dr. Sandy Nelson

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1. Dress improperly

Look disheveled on the job if you want to be noticed. To be singled-out, look grody–dirty and wrinkled clothes are best. Maintain a scruffy appearance, avoid personal hygiene. This probably goes without saying, but women should wear see-through clothing, show cleavage and the upper thigh; men should have dishelvedenough shirt buttons undone to show their chest hair and make sure their pants are tight through the crotch and butt.

 

2. On most days arrive late and call in sick often

Tardiness demonstrates just how important your job and career is to you. It’s one of the best conducts to display to grab attention. It communicates a more sickzen-like relaxed job ethic that you possess and exposes your sense of superiority over other employees who have to arrive on time. Never get to work early if you’re looking to dodge that promotion. If delayed by weather or other mishap, don’t bother to call your boss. Play hooky at least two times a week. Poor work attendance will get you noticed by the right people!

 

3. Have a bad attitude towards your position and the company

Bashing the mission statement and goals of your employer, and complaining about company policies will get you out the door faster, instead of in your own office. Be sure to complain each day how stupid the company rules are. 3f3d3f54-6898-4199-9303-02a3a4fddff0-mediumDisrespect them at every opportunity. Become an agent for change through rebellion of their established protocol’s. Enact your own rules and policies; your adherence to your way of doing things will draw the attention you’re looking for. Berate the executive board members by criticizing their obvious lack of intelligence. Also make it known which executives you find hot and wouldn’t mind bedding.

 

4. Do your job below par

This plan will get you noticed: don’t demonstrate any skills or abilities. Postpone any work projects required of you by making excuses or blaming your co-workers. Let the phone ring. Collect unopened emails. Miss meetings. Don’t help your co-workers. Shoot for slacking at least half of the day. Communicate your unwillingness to take on more responsibility and refuse to be part of any new initiatives the company is planning. Keep your credentials and skills out-of-date. Stay uninformed and inefficient with computer technology.

 

5. Join the gossip band-wagon

To shoot for a reputation as an employee with no caliber, bring your personal problems to work. Describe those problems, in all their horror, throughout the BuNUuoEIIAAySEgday, repeating the saga to each person who stops at your desk. Try to get everyone in the department to feel sorry for you, because certainly you are the only one who has personal problems. If you share personal issues with co-workers, you will become a topic of office gossip. This will circulate your name around the company staff, including the higher-up’s. It’s imperative to bitch and moan about everything that goes wrong. That does something to your credibility. So does joining in on office gossip with negative and degrading talk about other employees and the boss.

Think about it!

 

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