Category Archives: Positive Thinking

Why is there something instead of nothing?

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I recently had a conversation about the small galaxy that was detected by the Hubble Space Telescope. This tiny galaxy was discovered in the Milky Way’s backyard which makes it sound like you found a new Frisbee behind the garage. But, the backyard of space is endless, or is it?

How do you account for or even imagine the amount of space in all the universe and the amount of space between galaxies, stars, and planets. The Pale-Blue-Dot.png photo taken of earth by the Voyager 1 space probe is said to be a pic of the earth from 4 billion miles away–4 billion miles.

blue dotYou can barely see the small white fleck, but that’s us, that’s earth in the vastness of space.

My question is: how did this happen? How does space exist? What occurred, what came to pass that resulted in billions of miles of white-speckled space and light-years? Where do our black skies come from?

Carl Sagan titled his 1994 book Pale Blue Dot: A Vision of the Human Future in Space after the photograph. In it, he expresses his thoughts on a deeper meaning of the image: From this distant vantage point, the Earth might not seem of any particular interest. But for us, it’s different. Consider again that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there – on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.  

What’s your point of view?

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What are you expecting today?

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Some individuals hold others responsible for the disappointment and unwanted outcomes they experience. This furnishes them with a blaming, self-defeating state of mind. After being injured, disappointed, hurt, and violated enough times we may forfeit the anticipation of good outcomes in life. We remain snared in the unfairness of life where incorrect thinking and pessimistic feelings reign. We invent an imaginary scale by which events are weighed. Of course, the scale never measures above bad luck. No matter how many blessings exist or good IMG_0294things happen, it’s not seen, or it’s not enough, or something is flawed with it or we’re waiting for the other shoe to drop.

“You have a style, a way of being. You hear people describe others by noting their persona: He’s a real hard charger, or she’s a cool customer. Some approach life as a combat: they’re hostile, even explosive. Others are milquetoast who expect to get trampled, and do. Your attitude of approach dictates what you get back. You may complain about the way people react to
you, but believe me, you create it, just as everyone else creates the reactions they get from the world. Honestly evaluate your style of engagement, and you will begin to understand why the world responds to you as it does.”¹

Unless we tackle the thinking that results in this self-defeating negativity, we’ll become more complaining, more resentful, and continue to experience more unfairness because that’s what we’re expecting. What are you expecting today? Dr. Sandy

¹Dr. Phil McGraw in Life Strategies

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Do you nurture your mind with great thoughts?

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“Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.”¹ 

Around the beginning of the nineteenth century, French pharmacist Emile Coue introduced the idea of using affirmative thinking to counter stress. It was his belief that IMG_0271the power of a positive thought far exceeds that of the will.

A century later, researchers have confirmed what Coue already knew. Your thoughts can rocket your life into abundance and happiness, or plummet you into homelessness and joblessness.

Today, think of an affirming thought that can help you succeed, or be happy, or whatever you desire. Keep it short. For example, “I am worthy of love,” or “I am going to get ahead.” Recite your affirming thought throughout the day, every day, whenever you have a moment and envision yourself in the situation you desire. -Dr. Sandy

¹Benjamin Disraeli, British Conservative politician, writer and aristocrat in the 1800’s who twice served as Prime Minister

What thoughts are you having today?

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More people need to realize that it’s not their obstacles or unfair events that create havoc in life, it’s their attitude. French author Tom Blandi states, “Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working 24 hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force.”

IMG_0436We have received the power to determine our attitude—our thoughts. Right this very moment, as you read this, your mind is being programmed by your thoughts. You’re either dwelling on thoughts of success and the anticipation of good outcomes, or you’re dwelling on failures and the anticipation of regrets and disappointment.

“Thought is behavior in rehearsal,” wrote Sigmund Freud.¹ Conduct starts with a thought–an attitude–in our brain. We think before you act—ideally. If we’re dwelling on profitless thoughts, our attitude and conduct will reflect that—we’ll act discouraged and defeated. On the other hand, if we center on thoughts  and an attitude of gratitude and potential, our actions will be motivated and a pleasure.

Based on your conduct, what thoughts have you been thinking today? Make a point to adjust your attitude to one of gratitude that anticipates the good in life, then watch it arrive! –Dr. Sandy

¹From Sigmund Freud in “Retrospect and Conclusion,” Fragments of an Analysis with Freud by Joseph Wortis

 

Do you fear making decisions?

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Abraham Lincoln once said, “We have all heard the story of the animal standing in doubt between two stacks of hay and starving to death.”¹ Well, I never heard that story, but it creates a good image of what the fear of decision making can produce. The dread of making the wrong failure3choice can keep us immobile as we watch opportunity go by.

Does the possibility of making a mistake paralyze you? It shouldn’t. Your worth and significance isn’t dependent on your lack of errors. Making mistakes doesn’t indicate there’s some abnormal level of inadequacy within you.

People are respected and valued because of their character, not their lack of mistakes. This is an imperfect world with imperfect people. Strive for excellence but don’t be surprised when mistakes happen. Errors provide insight into what needs improvement or change, but errors never indicate your inadequacy as a person. –Dr. Sandy

¹From Politics, Lincoln’s Wit by Abraham Lincoln

What situations do you think would be impossible to endure or too difficult to overcome?

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American author and Social Worker Virginia Satir wrote, “Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.”

imagesthingssuckIs it important to you to contemplate how you will deal with the unanswerable questions of life before tragedy and loss knock at your door? To recognize that suffering and loss are regular visitors in life enables you to endure setbacks. No one looks forward to pain and disappointment, yet reality insists that you examine how you will respond to them instead of thinking you can evade suffering.

The way you handle pain and disappointment reveals to others the core of your character. Do you graciously, without anger or whining, accept the outcome and move quickly to Plan B? Do you see the disappointment as just more proof that the world is out to get you? Do you stop to look for the lesson or gift in the disappointment, and rely on faith that there is a reason for it? Do you call an emergency meeting of the Moan Club and complain, sigh, and sulk?

How will you respond to disappointment today? -Dr. Sandy

Who is standing in the way of your dreams?

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The American author Napoleon Hill wrote, “Until you have learned to be tolerant with those who do not always agree with you; until you have cultivated the habit of saying some kind word of those whom you do not admire; until you have formed the habit of looking for the good instead of the bad there is in others, you will be neither successful nor happy.”

belief16 - CopyIt seems so obvious. People who are demanding, critical, and pessimistic are doomed to a life of unhappiness and defeat. If they would only accept the reality that it isn’t other people who are standing in the way of their dreams; the obstacle is their own thinking.

People who focus on the worse are not able to attract the best into their lives. The more intolerant and demanding a person is, the less success he or she will reap. If you will today, practice respecting and accepting the differing opinions of others, speak of what’s positive in another person, and tag the good in situations, you will be well on the path of happiness and success. –Dr. Sandy

Is what you believe about yourself aiding…?

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Is what you believe about yourself aiding your pursuit of happiness and success? The Russian physician and author, Anton Pavlovich Chekhov, said “Man is what he believes.” 

The most significant attribute in life is what we believe about ourselves. Every day we live according to what we accept as true. It’s impossible to conduct ourselves for a period of time in contradiction to our opinions—to what we believe. We can not act in a manner inconsistent with the way we view life.

IMG_0251People who are steadily gloomy and indolent believe that life is a constant struggle. Their outlook is to put into life only what is expected and yet they blame other people for feeling trapped and unhappy in their day-to-day routine. The weariness and apathy in their thoughts fade only when resentments surface. For a time anger rises and takes the place of indifference. People who view living as a wrestling match experience the outcome of that belief.

Those individuals who are consistently positive and jovial believe life is a miracle which has happened to them. Far from viewing life through rose-tinted glasses, they experience misfortunes but respond to them with the belief that they are isolated incidents. They see and believe the best in life before acknowledging the worse. As a result they expect good events to happen to them.

Pay attention today to the content of your attitude towards yourself and your life, and make the necessary attitude adjustments.

I welcome your comments. -sn

Isn’t it hard not to complain?

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When has your good mood or positive attitude been influenced by the negativity of other people?

IMG_0106.JPG (2) - CopyIf the world is a negative place, it’s because so many people think negatively. It tends to be the norm to listen to the woes and problems of those around us everyday and to add our complaints to the mix.

According to experts, as much as 70 percent of people today have thought patterns which are persistently faultfinding and work against them. Children are growing-up under this doom and gloom attitude and the negative programming affects their potential.

Spotlighting a negative focus in life comes with a high cost. Pessimistic programming has an incredible power—it causes health problems, sabotages success, and even shortens lifespans.

See if you can experience today without complaining or dwelling on the negative aspects of life. If it’s a chore to withhold complaint, the more it indicates negativity has seep into your life.  –sn

 

Perspective

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A scene in the first episode of The Beverly Hillbillies has Jed Clampett talking to his elderly Aunt Pearl about moving from the back-hills of Tennessee to Beverly Hills. “Pearl, what d’ya think? Think I ought to move?” Jed asks her.

Pearl replies, “Jed, how can ya even ask? Look around ya. You’re eight miles from your nearest neighbors. You’re overrun with skunks, possums, coyotes, and bobcats. You use kerosene lamps for light and you cook on a wood stove summer and winter. You’re drinkin’ homemade moonshine and washin’ with homemade lye soap. And your bathroom is 50 feet from the house and you ask ‘should I move’?”

“I reckon you’re right.” Jed answers. “A man be a dang fool to leave all this!” 

Perspective.