I agree. This is a fear we are all acquainted with.
Fear is what we learned when well-meaning adults physically punished us for our childhood mistakes.
Fear is what we learned when our honesty was disapproved of by the showing of rejection.
Fear is what we learned when our trust was violated thanks to the betrayal of others.
Fear is what we learned when we made our well-being dependent on anyone but ourselves.
The more we need someone’s agreement in our lives, the more consumed by fear we become when we sense their disapproval or rejection. There’s enough scary aspects of life today that we have little control over. But we don’t have to be scared of someone’s opinion of us or fear someone’s disapproval.
The more anchored we are in the vast amount of love we’re born with, the less we care about what others think. The fear of someone’s disapproval doesn’t have to rock our boat when we are focused on our own self-respect and significance.
Try it. When you have a different opinion than someone else today, express it calmly and kindly. Then ask the other person why they hold the opinion they do. Seek to understand and allow the differences between you.
Respect and honor YOUR views and your self-respect will increase. Seek to understand and respect the opinions of other people and they will admire you. Soon your fear of disapproval will fade and you’ll be less dependent on the approval of other people.
Think about it.
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