Do you know people who, no matter what, are always right, never wrong, or so they think?
First of all, of course they want to be right. Of course they want to possess the correct answers, the right strategy, and the mental aptitude to solve the problems of the world! They even sustain a vision in their head where they are propped up on the shoulders of mankind amid the cheers and chanting of their name because, no matter what, they think they are right!
In a love relationship, fuhgeddaboudit. A partner who consistently believes he or she is right about pretty much everything, isn’t going to be in that relationship long enough to cite all their correct answers speech.
But why? Why do some people have a compulsive need to think they are always right? We all have that friend or that family member who always appears to be blemish free in their stories and who always has complaints about everything in life, plus all the remedies. Don’t they realize that we would hide behind a cactus to avoid a conversation with them?
Here’s some strategies to use with a person who is always right.
1. Silence. Yep, don’t respond to their victory lap stories. Don’t engage in the conversation. They’re waiting for you to say how amazing they are, so just do the ol’ smile and nod gesture, and remain silent. Stay calm. Don’t engage.
2. Excuse yourself. Get away from the one-way conversation by excusing yourself. Make up a reason if you need to, and you will probably need to. If you’re short of reasons to use, let me know. I got your back.
3. Assess if it’s the right time to convey your disdain. If you see the person who is always right just every Thanksgiving, it may not be worth a confrontation. But if it’s someone at work or a family member or friend you see on a regular basis, you need to honor your own being by speaking up.
4. Express yourself. Calmly state that you find it difficult to have a conversation with him/her because your thoughts or opinions are dismissed or corrected. Refuse to argue or debate with the person because it won’t work and will upset you more. Make your statement calmly and then walk away.
The need to be right is driven by a feature of pride and narcissism by some people where there’s an inability to admit error or apologize for being mistaken. They will bend the truth in a heartbeat so they can show others how right they are. Instead of examining mishaps or unwanted outcomes, some people are too wrapped up excusing their mistakes. Instead of understanding why an outcome occurred, some people are trying to still look good and dodge any blame.
The goal of those people who always have to be right, is to feel superior and gain the respect and awe of people for their all-knowing abilities. It’s sad they can’t see that the result is actually the opposite.
Think about it. In caring, Sandy